After the academic integrity meeting, I had to tell my parents. They sacrificed everything to send me here. Everything. My mom works 12-hour days. My dad drives a taxi at night. They don't have much, but they gave me what they had so I could have a better life.
I called them terrified. Crying before I even started talking. I told them everything — the AI, getting caught, the committee, the probation. I waited for them to be angry. To be disappointed. To tell me they'd wasted their money.
Instead, my mom said: "Are you okay? Really okay?"
And my dad said: "You made a mistake. You're human. We still love you. We're still proud of you."
I lost it. Completely lost it. Sobbing on the phone in my dorm room while my roommate pretended not to hear.
They don't fully understand what happened. They don't know what AI is or why it's wrong. But they know their daughter was scared and hurting, and that's all that mattered to them.
I don't deserve them. I really don't. But I'm going to spend the rest of my life trying to. Starting with actually using the writing center and language support services like I should have from the beginning.
If you're an international student struggling: ask for help before you do something stupid. There are resources. Use them. Don't be like me.
I called them terrified. Crying before I even started talking. I told them everything — the AI, getting caught, the committee, the probation. I waited for them to be angry. To be disappointed. To tell me they'd wasted their money.
Instead, my mom said: "Are you okay? Really okay?"
And my dad said: "You made a mistake. You're human. We still love you. We're still proud of you."
I lost it. Completely lost it. Sobbing on the phone in my dorm room while my roommate pretended not to hear.
They don't fully understand what happened. They don't know what AI is or why it's wrong. But they know their daughter was scared and hurting, and that's all that mattered to them.
I don't deserve them. I really don't. But I'm going to spend the rest of my life trying to. Starting with actually using the writing center and language support services like I should have from the beginning.
If you're an international student struggling: ask for help before you do something stupid. There are resources. Use them. Don't be like me.
